I had great Sex

WARNING : If you don’t want to know that Big married Carrie in the movie, read no further!

Why do we spoil the fun of others? Is it because of jealousy and an act to draw attention to ourselves? Just like people who are much loved sabotaging themselves because they can’t believe such a good thing could happen to them. Because they feel, somehow, they don’t deserve it. If everything is going so well, it is just a setting up for something bad to happen. Don’t life and love have a way of being a disappointment in the end? Life is finite. Because of that, do we then throw ourselves to the infinity of love so that our lives have meaning? Is love the answer to the question of why are we here and to what purpose do we serve?

Carrie thinks so. She began one of her column contributions with ‘Love.’ Full-stop. Then she added two more dots, ‘Love…’. Then she deleted the additional dots. She puts them on again. Deletes them again. Is love the end state? A full-stop. Or is it the beginning? With things to come but we don’t know what there is.

SATC PremiereIt’s neither. It is a process. It starts right at the middle. In the middle of all the things happening around us, in the midst of the living we have to deal with. Someone appears. And it happens. That’s a beginning of sorts. What happens after is anybody’s guess. So Carrie pondered… What happens after finding and falling in love?

As Miranda found out, it’s not an easy route with balancing the economics of family life with romance. After all, she has to take care of Brady, work as a lawyer, and deal with Steve’s infidelity. Steve. That sweet, dopy guy with all the right muscles and sensitivity. He loved Miranda so much, yet he slipped and slept with someone other than the mother of his child. Is that where all seasoned relationships head? Is it okay to share our bodies with others because the one we love is a frigid f*ck after a while? Do sexual needs in guys overrule everything else?

Not in the case of Samantha. Ms Jones is about as man about her sexual cravings as any man could be. Yet, she exercised restraint despite living next to a hunky, gorgeous next-door neighbor who probably got his nice firm butt from all that thrusting action. She saw him ramming, unzipping, bathing… But she never once faltered and betrayed her relationship with Smith. A huge sacrifice and a remarkable feat being the horn dog (or pussy) that she is. Well, in the end, her clit ruled and she left Smith. He’s rich, he’s young, he f*cks 5 times a week, and he loves Samantha. But she gave him up. That’s nonsense to logic, but the heart knows. Her gut feel was to give him up.

Which was Carrie’s advice to Miranda. After that red-hair giraffe was so adamant at forgiveness for Steve’s one sexual encounter, which he apologized for majorly (well, Miaranda hasn’t been warming the bird with her nest for six months, if you know what I mean…), she finally listened to her heart and discarded her lawyer ability to argue on both sides of the case. That scene where they reunited was so sweet. Each of them coming half-way and meeting in the middle. Don’t we all always insist on who we are or what we want, and we fail to compromise, to meet half-way where things could work because the feeling is right? We look for what we want, but we fail to see what that person can offer that is above and beyond what we’re looking for?

But that is nothing Charlotte will hope for. She’s the princess in every fairytale story we’ve ever known except that her prince charming reflects too much light on his bald pate. Charlotte is a big turn-on in her own way but to settle for… what’s the bald guy’s character name? Or his name as an actor? I can’t remember. Is it a sign that beautiful creatures should settle with someone not of their league to find happiness? Well, it would be tiresome if you and your partner fight for the mirror all the time. And bear him a child called Rose. So outdated lor. Women named Rose has got bad destiny lor… look at Rose from Titanic! Well, perhaps it complements the name of the couple’s adopted baby named Lily. Why don’t they ever call them Rafflesia?

So the big thing was that Charlotte shat in her gym pants. Toilet jokes are once again funny? But that made Carrie laugh after she was dumped by Big at their wedding day. What followed was choppy editing and storyline… where you can distance yourself and not be absorbed into the character’s predicament. But in the end, after a big turn around, they kissed and got married. I guess I can understand that. The pretense not to love someone when that one person consumes your heart. Much as you want to assure that person that it will just be ‘you and me’, somehow that person don’t want you by the side because they are used to being the one to provide, advice, comfort, guide, teach… meeting half-way is not an option or consideration.

Sex And The City is a great movie. No CGI, just actresses showing who and what they really are. At age 40. I’m sobered watching how true-to-life this movie was at describing love… and the fear it injects. Well, at the very least, this is about as much great sex a single guy like me had gotten.

Even though the ending was proclaimed… it is still worth the 2.5 hour journey to discover this movie that echoed so much of modern-day love… and sex.

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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. icezworld
    May 30, 2008 @ 04:04:35

    Nicely written. 😛

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  2. icezworld
    May 30, 2008 @ 04:04:35

    Nicely written. 😛

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  3. not_anotherblog
    Jun 02, 2008 @ 15:01:21

    another great entry i must say.
    for what its worth, below are my two cents:
    I can’t help but notice that at the end of the day (or 10 sex-and-the-city years), 3 of the 4 women got their happy endings with a man through marriage.
    so lets be honest, you cant help but feel a little sad for samantha who, at 50, will face her next new year’s eves either alone or with some ‘hunk of the week’. but til wen is that sustainable? when menopause(and the exit of the libido) is jus ard the corner, i can’t help but wonder what would samantha’s happy ending look like? hmmm…

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  4. not_anotherblog
    Jun 02, 2008 @ 15:01:21

    another great entry i must say.
    for what its worth, below are my two cents:
    I can’t help but notice that at the end of the day (or 10 sex-and-the-city years), 3 of the 4 women got their happy endings with a man through marriage.
    so lets be honest, you cant help but feel a little sad for samantha who, at 50, will face her next new year’s eves either alone or with some ‘hunk of the week’. but til wen is that sustainable? when menopause(and the exit of the libido) is jus ard the corner, i can’t help but wonder what would samantha’s happy ending look like? hmmm…

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